Remothering Roadmap 

Remothering | Step One:  Intentional Foundations

In step one, we kick off the remothering journey with foundational tools for intentional change.  We start by learning to work WITH our body's biology and inherent wisdom.  That's important because before we can break free from outdated patterns that no longer serve, we need to be able to spot them.  And then, when we do spot them, we are going to want to be self-compassionate so we can work in relationship with ourselves to make the changes we are setting out to create.

Our brains and nervous systems are always looking out for us, but they are not always responding to the CURRENT circumstances.  Which is why in step one, we explore the "of-course-ness" of the adaptations our wise younger selves created.  And we learn how to communicate with the parts of our brain that don't speak in words. 

Remothering | Step Two:  Recognize Your Adaptations

What's your "flavor" of adaptation?

Hint, here are a few common adaptations to get your ideas flowing:

• fixer
• pleaser
• perfectionist
• over-functiong (ie:  over-working, over-helping, over-explaining, over-caretaking)
• having fortress walls of toughness and/or porous boundaries

Do any of those resonate?  If you were to add any to the list, what would they be?

In step two, we learn how to spot the clues that we have an adaptive behavior because what we don't see, does affect us - yikes!  But the good news is that once we recognize them, we can use the tools we'll be learning along the remothering journey to be more choiceful in how we move forward.  

Remothering | Step Three:  Connect with your Inner Wisdom

Imagine that feeling of "I've got you" in all situations.  Experiencing attunement, wise counsel, and belonging.  To know that someone has our back.  To feel witnessed, accepted, protected, nurtured, loved, and respected.  As we are.  And as we are becoming. 

In step three, we'll deepen our inner-connection so we can turn within to access the mother qualities we each seek.  We also learn how to quiet mental chatter and hijacked thoughts using a tool I call "spotting the interlopers". 

Remothering | Step Four:  Break Free from Outdated Programming

Having identified some of our unhelpful patterns, and intentionally connected with our inner wisdom, the next step is to learn tools to break free from any outdated programming that no longer serves.  In step four, we lean into the tools and techniques for updating patterns and rewiring with intention.

We learn about our identity beliefs (where they hide, and how they impact us).  We take a look at resistance - how and why it shows up.  We learn how to prune our limiting beliefs and create new ones ON PURPOSE.

Remothering | Step Five:  Thrive Forward

With our deepening self-connection, we point our focus towards thriving forward.  One of the key skills we learn in step five is healthy boundaries, without guilt, even with boundary-impaired others. 

In step five we also learn tools to reinforce all that we've learned.  The human adventure is textured and layered; just because we've traveled our remothering journey, doesn't mean we won't get pinged.  And while life's challenges don't magically disappear, the impact they have on us changes. 

Here's to you and your real and beautiful life.  And here's to thriving forward.