This is the 3rd article in the series. We've already covered, "What is Remothering", and "How do we begin". In this article, you'll receive the overview of all five steps.
By Simona Vivi H
5-Step Remothering Roadmap
Step One: Intentional Foundations
Step Two: Recognize your Adaptations
Step Three: Connect with your Inner Wisdom
Step Four: Break Free from Outdated Programming
Step Five: Thrive Forward
Remothering | Step One: Intentional Foundations
In step one, we kick off the remothering journey with foundational tools for intentional change. We start by learning to work WITH our body's biology and inherent wisdom. That's important because before we can break free from outdated patterns that no longer serve, we need to be able to spot them. And then, when we do spot them, we are going to want to be self-compassionate so we can work in relationship with ourselves to make the changes we are setting out to create.
Our brains and nervous systems are always looking out for us, but they are not always responding to the CURRENT circumstances. Which is why in step one, we explore the "of-course-ness" of the adaptations our wise younger selves created. And we learn how to communicate with the parts of our brain that don't speak in words.
Remothering | Step Two: Recognize Your Adaptations
What's your "flavor" of adaptation?
Hint, here are a few common adaptations to get your ideas flowing:
having fortress walls of toughness and/or porous boundaries
Do any of those resonate? If you were to add any to the list, what would they be?
In step two, we learn how to spot the clues that we have an adaptive behavior because what we don't see, does affect us - yikes! But the good news is that once we recognize them, we can use the tools we'll be learning along the remothering journey to be more choiceful in how we move forward.
Remothering | Step Three: Connect with your Inner Wisdom
Imagine that feeling of "I've got you" in all situations. Experiencing attunement, wise counsel, and belonging. To know that someone has our back. To feel witnessed, accepted, protected, nurtured, loved, and respected. As we are. And as we are becoming.
In step three, we'll deepen our inner-connection so we can turn within to access the mother qualities we each seek. We also learn how to quiet mental chatter and hijacked thoughts using a tool I call "spotting the interlopers".
Remothering | Step Four: Break Free from Outdated Programming
Having identified some of our unhelpful patterns, and intentionally connected with our inner wisdom, the next step is to learn tools to break free from any outdated programming that no longer serves. In step four, we lean into the tools and techniques for updating patterns and rewiring with intention.
We learn about our identity beliefs (where they hide, and how they impact us). We take a look at resistance - how and why it shows up. We learn how to prune our limiting beliefs and create new ones ON PURPOSE.
Remothering | Step Five: Thrive Forward
With our deepening self-connection, we point our focus towards thriving forward. One of the key skills we learn in step five is healthy boundaries, without guilt, even with boundary-impaired others.
In step five we also learn tools to reinforce all that we've learned. The human adventure is textured and layered; just because we've traveled our remothering journey, doesn't mean we won't get pinged. And while life's challenges don't magically disappear, the impact they have on us changes.
Here's to you and your real and beautiful life. And here's to thriving forward.
Bringing it all Together
The ultimate goal of the remothering work is to thrive forward with a powerful sense of alignment. Remothering is a feminine expression of stepping into our power with strength and grace. In a culture that models power-over, remothering is rooted in power-with.
This is part of our "How do I remother myself" series; written with love for those that are curious about remothering, and for fellow-self-healers on the remothering journey. In the coming weeks and months, I'll share the "how" of each step, one at a time. Stay posted by signing up for the reMothering.org newsletter. And if you are ready to dive into the "how" right now, here are some resources that already exist:
The reMothering Masterclass The reMothering Masterclass is a 5-week course that covers each of these steps. Each step of the roadmap includes classes from industry experts, all available On-Demand so you can watch at your own pace. Plus, the Integration Workbook, which you'll have instant access to in the On-Demand portal, is designed to bring forward the key learnings that are most essential for your unique path forward. The On-Demand Access Pass can be purchased by clicking here, or by visiting reMothering.org/programs.
Article written by:
Simona Vivi H
Simona Vivi Hadjigeorgalis is the founder of reMothering.org, a collaborative space where industry leaders create remothering resources for independent-learning. Simona also has a private coaching practice at The Center for Remothering.